November 2021

The lack of patience is an impediment to attaining success.

Good Things take time

Lack of patience is an impediment to success| It’s not only the number of those achieving success rising, it is the need to achieve it that is on the rise. The ‘competition’ is massive. Yet sometimes to achieve greater things in life you need not to compete but simply beat them. Patience is staying out of the competition but also striving to be a better you, beat what you were a second ago, and, therefore, beat them by accident.

It’s not only patience required when results are not showing up in time but when results show up on their time as a failure. Patience is when time is moving and you do not care whether you are hitting the gold or the rubble. That lack of care about the results is a basic maker of success because successful people are highly likely to be people with a lot of failures in the past but also ahead. We live in an environment with a multiplicity of patience erasers. The lack of patience is rife. It must be.

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But without patience, there is no waiting for an uncertain season of harvest. Shortcuts are not the dream. The dream itself can never wake you up before its time. Where patience is lacking the actual dream is replaced by shortcuts.

Patience is functionally staying where you are not wanted, welcoming the unwelcomeable and hoping for the best without hoping for the best in the next second or the next year. If you don’t stay where you are not wanted but where you should stay to bring out something you desire you don’t get what you desire. Since success is for the few who only deserve it, why should it be given to dudes who want clean results like yesterday? The lack of patience erases all that you must put to the surface to claim victory. Where you are required to feel the pain you just run away.

I’d rather feel the hate in what I love. Than feel the love in what I hate…

Meinrd Socien Dandadzi, SubjectMe

Feeling the hate in what you love. If you take that as your only option; It means there are no conditions to stay but you are simply staying because you love it. This becomes patience working in harmony with passion. Feeling the love in what you hate is simply welcoming stakes with high and immediate rewards but them being anything you don’t really love. In this case, you are only willing to welcome anything welcomeable and not punishing. But anything of such kind creeps in as one of the things your heart don’t beat for.

Why would we want things in our hands that are exclusive to the few that easy? Why? Because patience is hard to incorporate into anyone’s system. It doesn’t keep the beholder happy it can only keep him/her enduring what most are not ready to endure, and therefore, it is a rare commodity. It doesn’t beg anyone to allow it in his system and it doesn’t force to get in. This nature of patience is by design to keep itself in the systems of the few. The lack of patience remains one of the biggest impediments to success.

Where society meets, a narrative of achievements without patience is indirectly created and maintained. We love “automatic success” especially the one that is judged by what each one among us can buy and show and followers you can have, and it rarely exists. Social networks carry images that do not reveal anything patience or even true success but they trigger a lot, including confusion, among the youth who are aiming to achieve. An athlete is already in the tracks, says an image posted. However, years of work behind are hidden, and the image goes viral missing its reality.

Patience, despite causing you to stay where the pain is, can take away some of the pain and ready yourself to endure the pain. It is patient in having you take no shortcuts and start again when the long way doesn’t lead to the results desired. Patience is patient in having you take a long way again and again without any results. It also faces the verge of extinction all the time; both in the long-term and the short-term. A minor failure causes patience to die. Seven days of visiting the same office without getting the answer erase the possibility of visiting it the eighth. Yes, there are times when you can be pointlessly patient. But patience when it is pointless it’s less pointless than the opposite of it.

Sacrifices happen in a sea of patience. In patience, you wait for what you have been not promised, and only you are sure that it is going to come out right or not, then right after more trying. Sacrifices happen in the same manner apart from the fact that there is no hint of waiting. Yet both can produce the same results. You can sacrifice and still fail but git it right after many costly sacrifices.

Unique results are less likely to come overnight. Interesting results must come overnight. But there is a difference between the results that you wish to get and interesting results. The results you wish to get require patience. Patience is harder to live in and maintain. Patience, the lack thereof, is the biggest impediment to the attainment of success.

Without the power to be to face total starvation without determination changed. Without the power to stand for ages without your needs addressed. Without the lust to stand for ages without your needs addressed. The amount of distance in light-years from achieving success is only higher.

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What you can buy… It’s a bad to measure of wealth or so.

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What you can buy… In fact, it’s dangerous to use items that one or a group of people can buy as a tool for judging if one is poor or not. But we live in that danger all the time. To judge whether one of us is having a better life or not items s/he can buy are counted, and we all want to look better-off in life than to feel better-off or be better-off in practice. So, chances are in a bid to appear better-off we buy items that are not really functional but those that can help us to stand up in a better league with others.

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Poverty on the other hand, we can learn from lottery winners, can only end through functional items we may either acquire of build in our lives. It doesn’t end through what we can buy or the capacity to buy the items we buy. We need to bring in functional items into our hands. Those items may include our own education, assets that can cash in or help in that process, than items that can cash out as liabilities and among other things.

On the other hand, money getting into our hands do not go up as a result of nonfunctional items we put into our hands. They are just priceless relics, and they are expensive for the record. The confusion is most of the things that we call assets are not really assets they are just items we can buy, losing much in the process of buying them.

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The pressure and the education out there quickly is there to teach us that those nonfunctional items we acquire are functional. We learn to defend our acquisitions just as we defend subconsciously an addiction. We love to own much useless stuff and stand out in the competition of owning them useless stuff. The cost is always hefty.

As we put more and more unfunctional things that can help us to stand up nonstop, we build a habit. A spending habit. The most poor among us think that it’s a habit for those who have much to spend. But the button line is we are only losing more to what can never bring it back. While this all happen we are making it even harder to realise our potential in life. We just go below average. We just learn to complain about money buying less stuff. Yet we don’t care about money buying useful stuff.

Function is not buying ten bags with the same colour under the same label and in the same edition and buy again more in the next edition before you are done with the ten old colours. We just pile things in our lives that drains our financial potential because we don’t want to look poor and it’s wrong. Being poor or rich is  only mistakenly measured in terms of how much you can acquire. Those things visible to them. So that you don’t stand out visibly poor but visibly rich.

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Sellers have found their way to advertise so that we can only buy because we are inclined to buy. In fact, buying stuff is one of the things we are expected to do by the society and we must do it. We respond to this expectation very well. And when we do we don’t do it mostly to bring functional things in our lives. We fill our garages with toys our kids can never have the chance to put their hands on because of their quantity.

The end result… someone can quickly and cleanly rise from being a street kid into someone well ahead. In some instances, although this doesn’t usually, this happened in our history.

I remember picking something from my own family here. Me (born 1995) and siblings (2000, 2006) grew up in an African village and, while we were in one of the well-to-do families in the village we were not well-to-do enough to have the luxury of owning personal computers. Yet my parents’ family planning pattern was the first of this kind in the village. At 20, I owned my first PC. Sister (2000), owned her first Mac at 20 as well as it was a requirement for the University degree.

In some cases, and this can be the case with some other fellows I managed to know during my years at College, laptops, if not for writing assignments and reading stuff to do with exams laptops can also be just for gaming and watching pirated movies.

So, I faced a hard time convincing sister to get to know the App Store and discover softwares (free or trial) that are for accounting stuff as she pursued in that field until I gave up. Mobile data was getting cheaper and cheaper and also faster enough.

Sometimes we can have a functional item in your hands. But there is not going to be anyone to daily deliver a “what’s next manual” to us. That being said we also acquire functional items. But rather allow them to exist in our hands without serving their function, or very little of their function. 

If the item in one’s hands serves all its functional purposes it cease to be an item or an ‘asset’ to become a resource. That transition into it being a resource is chiefly driven by availability of consciousness.

  • Why you have it (that item) now, then, of all the people, etc? 
  • What it can give you?
  • What you must do with it?

Above are important important questions. They must run subconsciously in us as we own or think about owning not only items but resources. An owner of resources don’t care about how fast and how latest-edition it is.  S/he simply looks into not the things he wanna do but the things he must do through his/her resources and do them.

Are you acquiring anything you are with a mindset of a carpenter buying a toolbox with hammers and other of his best tools?

Passion: Doing what you love.

Passion: Doing what you love

A passion is where and when your heart allows you to do what you do, be good or bad, fail and fare not well, and find no reasons to stay but still stay emotionally attached. That persistence comes from your heart and it’s not alone. There is an approval. An approval from the heart is the greatest of all. It is greater than the one you can get from anyone close to you, a sibling, lover or parent because it works on the inside to give you patience, confidence, hope, discipline, in any second you want it. All ingredients are thus made available. Passion sets the time to cook is set to anytime.

It is the heart wholly at it.

Learning about passion from Neil Armstrong and his crew

Passion and the things we do. DO what you do with love. If you don’t love it there must be no you doing it. It’s a simple equation. It can solve itself through like terms. No like terms nothing solved. No like terms nothing solved.

In 1900, the first powered Wright Brothers plane had not taken off. But in 1969 it was possible for humans to make it to the moon. The only people who first made it to the moon were not medical practitioners, they were astronauts. People who had their hearts and love in being what they were. They took their time training and defining a career, and they are historical heroes.

Do what you love. You are a hero.

You should rather feel the hate in what you love than feel the love in what you hate. Passion directs preferences. It can tell you how far you can go in a certain walk of life.

Neil avoided interviews as if he had taken an oath of secrecy upon joining NASA. It’s said that he did avoid them so as not to instil fear among future astronauts, or tell them things they haven’t experienced and he preferred a conversation rather than an interview. He avoided celebrity status and stayed low-profile.

When doing what you do you don’t have to do it to be the world’s high-ranked individual because having people addicted to you is not your destination but loving what you do and have it done perfectly with results that please you is.

How to find a passion

A passion is found where see no results but keep your patience on. That’s where your passion is. Where results are just an inch but you have hard times in pressing on and staying at it. That’s where your passion can’t be. It’s easier to find a passion if you are searching for it. What’s not easier is simply hoping to find it while you are not looking for it for you to find it. People who can find a passion are people who have tried a lot. They are not people who do nothing or little or stay at nothing or at little.

The golden rule when finding your passion is: “Fall in love at the first sight. No with the things you want to possess but with the things want to do and how you want to do them.”

Finding a passion must be that. You don’t have to fall in love with the harvest you hope to get. You must fall in love with the technique you can afford to put in and hope but wait for good harvests. If you are in love with only the outcome, and if you are using an outcome to lure yourself into loving something, you are far away from finding a passion.

Why you do it is the maker of how you do it.

Simply put I found it as your loving loving heart over something else. Some say it is not found in that you don’t wake up one morning loving this instead of that, and it takes more than discovering it to have it as your passion. It more than a matter of emotions, that you have something in your mind running there irrationally and growing or changing radically into something rather different than when it first showed up in one. You heart on something is one thing, attending it so that you grow stronger in it is another.

Curiosity disease

It was in 2014 when I started to seriously want to know things that are beyond my stuff in such a way that if they were not given to me through the formal education I received, available to you from the school etc., I had to find means to have bits of them into your knowledge base at any cost. This curiosity must be unstoppable.

My first google search query happened when I was a high school student when our school had installed its WiFi system just for less that sixty computers donated in our library. I didn’t go on and read some Divinity notes and download works by T. Constable as were told do but I started dig deep into what was internet.

The best you can do when this disease catches up with you is not to cure it. You just have to move into its direction and give it its best to sustain it and make it prevail in your system at any cost.

A year later I was with all the knowledge about how payments are done online, and how each participant in the internet world from Wikipedia to Facebook and from a Game developer to a blogger earns or not, and how some bad things happen there. Whilst computers sucked all of my input into having some knowledge inside me, my grades were falling down.

A passion building up is known to break through its barriers including the need for good grades.

An answered call

There is a time when a passion is left alone to fight its barriers alone and there shall be a time when it will be defended.

When the call of the passion is answered, if you sort of go against it and the path you are picking through can become wrong. Where there is a sense of danger you see hope. For defending what you love is one of the things you learn to do just as you get to love them. Hence, it is the extend of that defense that may explain the depth of the passion.

The unwelcoming start

When the starting line is miles away from us we reason that it is far away. Well, when a passion catches up with what we do, we don’t reason we work very hard to bring the starting line to just where we are. This stage of having a start where a start is difficulty happens with the few who keeps going, a few who now have an understanding that difficulty is not impossible.

This phase now is part of the buildup process. It is the start that happens against all all odds.

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When you suffer for something that gives you weaker results for the sake of pleasing no one but you alone, and still stay pleased without results at all. You have found your passion.

Growth doesn’t mind a zero. Because it doesn’t give you a room, it doesn’t give you a room. Every time you are with a zero in your hands you are negotiating to have it going up, that where a passion fits in. Your love for something wants you first to have some freedom of loving something to give you that patience.