What to chase after in life? This is a good question to ask because every second you meet a situation in which you must decide between two or more things; between what’s good and what’s bad; between what’s present and what’s absent; between what’s satisfying in the present and what may bring satisfaction in the future, and so on. In our journeys to greatness or our demise, the choices we make are then followed by priorities and motives to determine the extent of our success.
Chase for things that you will never have a chance to once gone
If you don’t get into marriage at eighteen it means at twenty you can get a chance, if not so at twenty-five you can get it, if not at twenty-five maybe at thirty-five or later than that. It is exceptionally your thing that one day you will be in marriage if you want to be in a marriage one day. But most of the time we fight hard for the things that are exceptionally ours, the things we can get any time later than now, and forget the things that if not achieved now there is never to be a chance, ever.
If I lose that interview for a top job, chances are I will not find another top job interview earlier. It’s a chance that if erased it’s erased for sure and I can’t have a voice at it. It is what to chase after and fight for.
If a certain type of cancer crouches into a family. Then suddenly it’s curable for the time being before it gets into an incurable stage at a cost that can leave the family three times poorer than it is now. Wasting money on it is better than not. Because curing it now is a chance that if erased it won’t be available two years after whilst money is a different thing.
If you chase for the things that are rare and simply wait for those that are exceptionally yours and, therefore, not rare to you, you can flourish. By doing so you are approaching your desire and have it result in more positives than negatives as desire can be toxic. Because by default we are bound to simply chase after the things that are exceptionally ours, save that money in the account while a family member suffers from that cancer. The thing is those things that are exceptionally ours are enticing.
At the family level, in corporate systems, at the national level and in religious organisations, some decisions made wrongly involved chasing after things that were exceptional and not rare to the group. Nokia foresaw the hints of its downfall in early 2009 when the iPhone’s form-factor was proving to be a big deal. Instead of just delivering a complete device that would be at the market with more than iPhone’s offering they simply put only a camera to their usual hardware, those things they had become experts in delivering. A capable Operating System was needed and the money to even give developers with the most downloads, free, and therefore build a perfect app store by subsidizing developers with numerous downloads. A fluid capacitative touchscreen instead of the “ATM touchscreen tech”/TFT resistive touchscreen was needed. That screen came in November 2009, almost three years after Apple had introduced it.
There are times when new strengths must be built instead of just investing in those we have already. Chasing must be reserved for what’s rare or what’s not in our possession. That being said there are sometimes when something is not rare but just a thing not in our possession. At a personal level, this even inhibits building more better habits. Useful ones we don’t have are always left out in the habit-building system in favour of strengthening the ones in us already.
Success is rare than the opposite of it. Sadness is just an inch away from you while happiness is miles off. Spreading your bed every morning you wake up is a habit as easier to live in than other habits that must be involved in building your true path. So, it’s success, it’s happiness, building the true path to success, among other things, that you must chase after.