A choice is a starting point to everything. The fact that my mother met my dad, got engaged and married is evidence of a string of choices leading to my absence, right? The result of a choice is an outcome.
We choose now and then and sometimes we’re forced to take what we don’t want. But either way, each choice or forced choice is a seed to what comes next.
I dropped out of college in my final semester. That being a choice killed the possibility of ending with some other outcomes. Disadvantaged and with less to end up in a formal job I started to believe that there are two ways people get paid (through certificates and qualifications and through the mind), and my choice allowed me to look at what was in my mind instead of gathering more certificates and qualifications.
It’s a choice to believe. To believe that you’re satisfied when you’re not, or that you’re not satisfied when you are. When choices are made the beginning of something starts. The beginning more other choices, more other outcomes, etc.
You’re a host already of a string of choices that makes (or not) even commitments you can’t walk out of easily (you can’t cease to be someone’s father). Because they’re many they conflict sometimes. Each choice asks for your attention and the intensity of your attention, to be given by you, your best sweat, best brains, money, your presence.
You can spend three minutes on your studies because you feel that your drinking should be seven hours. But, inasmuch as drinking is your bigger priority, you made your choice already to study. Priorities thus become choices within choices. And you are the minister of policymaking, right? You only define where to put much of your intensity.
Priorities make a man or break him. They crown a queen or enslaves one.
Motives (Why are you doing what you do?)
If you’re in love for fun, then it is your motive in that relationship is to get that fun without giving anything or committing yourself. Your loving is limited and it will not go past your attainment of fun. That motive can chip off bits of the relationship by having you prioritise less in it.
Because we usually turn a blind eye to what’s inside us, but look inside others and blame, see them as wrong and causing us to fail, some motives inside us are what we barely see.
A motive tells you when to end so that you can end far less than where you can end. Successful people are people who put a big motive in what they do. When others want 10, these rare breeds come in and do what they do to come up with a hundred.