Between wants, needs and purpose is a conflict. Between needs and wants is a purpose.

Needs, wants, purpose conflict.

What is a purpose? It is an outline of destinations, stops, starting points and journeys that saves a function in your life especially the one to prove the reason for your existence. It’s what you are living for not what you live with. Hence, a purpose is anything that can produce positive and enjoyable results in the long run if listened to.

What are needs? Needs are the very basic essentials you cannot live without. Needs are a requirement to every good state you enjoy in your life including life itself not death, happiness, and all other positives. Needs are the fuel everyone moves with. Shelter, clothing and food are good examples.

What are wants? Sometimes are neither basic nor essential. They are just what they are in our desires, a sense of our pride. Sometimes wants are extra essentials for those who can afford them. Whilst food is a need, a $200 dinner can be a want, especially when I need to borrow to afford it.

Your life is complete without your effort going into pushing forward a personal purpose or, in fact, without
ever having to come up with something that is purpose. Putting your purpose between wants and needs is downscaling that dinners down to something else, and use the change to put forward what’s in your plans and vision.

Mostly it’s fifty-fifty. Our effort, resources, time, money, strength and attention is half into our needs and half again into our wants. A thirty-three-and-a-half allocation would be necessary to each of the three. Our needs. Our wants. Our purpose. Because difference is made in including purpose in, not in the two we usually crowd our attention and effort in.

Success is a reward to a certain performance achieved and done purposefully. It comes when the tools at your exposal are used in such a way that they can only serve a function in your life. It comes when we focus more on what does pay in the future.

The conflict between the three is in the fact that what you put into acquiring your wants, once you put it there, it can’t be put into your need or purpose. You can’t have all of the three out of each dime, each minute and resource in your possession.

The essentials and the function, needs and purpose.

Needs are essential you cannot live without them. In counting your needs include the intangible ones like your happiness. You need to be happy and that’s essential in this life; that whenever a stream of sadness crouches in you find yourself equipped enough to pacify it and fare well even in grief. Most of the time happiness is an acquisition, and you must place a higher bid on the inner side to win it.

Once your needs are covered the advancements at the personal level can only come from acquiring or giving attention to those things that are functional. And that’s how purpose is achieved. A good example is in one of the paragraphs above. There are times when even dining is no longer done as an essential but a waste. When covering yourself is no longer an essential but more than you should exercise for you to have something left to push other productive things in your life, after having eaten a cheaper functional meal.

Function and purpose are also achieved if you choose to attain “feeling good” before “looking good“. It is a great thing to go with the little, live in the little if you are with an intention to achieve the most.

The things we can afford should not be things we can afford at a serious cost of our time, finances, resources, etc. To afford them at a lesser cost it can be a good thing to ignore them in the meantime while we buy functional items. Function pays. The function is discovered, and once you discover it you must allow purpose to be in your visibility so that you can step up.

What is fear? The bad or good, and overcoming it.

The Fear System

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Fear of the unknown* Informativus

What is fear? The term origins can be traced back to proto-Germanic feraz which means danger. Fær is the old English origin for middle English fere “sudden attack, calamity, danger”. Simply put, fear is a state of being afraid, after perceiving the danger that can result from avoiding or going through an experience, object, practice etc. The Christian Bible’s usage of the term fear is well-covered in this definition. Hindu writings, Bhagavad Gita being one of them, dwelled a lot on fear as well. Fear exists in the books of religion.

During the age of the internet we have seen more fears entering the English terminology. The Fear Of Missing Out (FOMO) and the Fear Of a Better Option (FOBO). People are building more ways to communicate what’s fear and help in fighting it and understanding it. Yet, according to this source, the psychological term for fear of the unknown is supposed to be xenophobia. Yet, phobia is an extension applicable to any form of hate. What you are afraid of in this fear of the unknown sense is what you are likely to hate.

How fear of the unknown forms or is created in an individual being? Well, before one creates fear in himself. He creates the unknown which result in fear. Things are so as it is said that people sometimes fear those things they do not understand. Fear combines with the lack of understanding can make hate over the things not understood.

Fear exists in our paths to greatness as an obstacle. It’s far that put brakes when you are supposed to move. This is the exact fear discussed here, the ‘bad fear’. Fear is good as it is bad. When it is bad, it sort of stays in the qualities of the good fear, respected by the host and the society. It is a system of one’s beliefs, and beliefs may subtract the need to know.

The terrible thing with this fear is it can allow you to try, take some initial steps and have you forget that those steps are progress and quit. The bad fear is the best fear to fry your progress.

Fear is the worst thing that could happen to a human. It sort of gives him some confidence to act, when it is nothing. It gets one into moving backwards eventually since it’s never eyes to see nor the guts to discover. The format fear is in is fear itself. It is the biggest obstacle in the book of success.

Bad fear is pointless. Live in it you become pointless. It attacks the centre of solution-making first, the mind. When things are so you are worse of in fear that you can be in an intensive care unit.

You can say that you are afraid of lions. That is not different from saying that you hate to dine with the lions. Fear anything you don’t specifically understand and chose not ever understand it, you can only hate it.

It’s rather better not to ever step into that ring that is in there facing an opponent filled with it. In most cases, the best fruits of fear are not victory/. Fear can leave you worse than you were when you started.

The positive sides of fear

Fear exists in our systems of belief as a correctional centre of it. You are afraid to do scam business or to hurt someone physically or emotionally. That alone keeps you a good person in society when you have more chances to be a very bad person. You are disposed to not do things against your ethics, morality, your religion or principles, the law and so on.

Fear in this case ceases to be ‘bad fear’ to become ‘good fear’.

How to win over fear

You don’t need a powerful hand. You just have to list things through it. The very step towards overcoming fear is just feeling that you are adequate. You don’t need to be overconfident, though. When you set the fire and fail to have it burn allow patience to be your jacket in the cold.

Know what you are dealing with the best you can know it. The time is always there. Don’t waste it. Once you have the knowledge apply it. The third aspect of knowledge which is not knowledge itself, not its application is knowledge of applying knowledge.

Read: Discover, don’t see things and build a proper perspective.

Fail to abuse the resources at your exposal. As for me, I didn’t watch pirated movies on the village’s first computer which I own. That’s why I am here blogging for you.

Find some source of encouragement, build a friendship that is your ultimate strengthening resource. Their words are powerful as well as their actions. Allow only those who can deliver good words and experiences that can liquidate your fear.

Failure must be a moment to learn a bigger things in your game. Don’t allow it to cause much panic. Once you fail, allow yourself to access the parts of the failure that are yours and correct them and forget the parts of that failure that were caused by someone else.

Toxicity of desire how to change desire into positivity

When the words “Toxicity of desire” are used to form such a phrase the assumption is desire is toxic. But when desire is spoken of as a necessity in the mending of success stories you must best be questioning: How to change desire into positivity.

Toxicity of desire: Lessons from normal humans at the clinic and a hyena in the jungle.

My second dose of vaccine came on September 13, 2021. On this day I and other tens and tens of people at the clinic offended their reason of existence. It was a kid suffering from a malnutrition condition at the clinic which everyone ignored. His mother had to stand in the queue with us and behind much of us. Yet we were not ill.

It was the desire of anyone visiting the clinic to get all his/her issues solved earlier and leave. After all, spending hours at the clinic waiting for a jab that is two weeks overdue is not desirable. The woman and her malnutrition kid had to first pass through the temperature tests, and everyone including all of us who were healthy and had visited to get a jab had to. The temperature test process wasn’t anything to consume more than five minutes. But none allowed the kid a slot ahead of him/her. Excuses ranged from “I left my doors not locked” to “I have a visitor at my home”.

A young laughing hyena found itself the only of its kind alive in the plain. A terrible drought had hit, two years had passed without any rains until two weeks ago. For three days it rained softly and calmly as if to quench the tears of losses the wildlife had endured. But there was not much among the stocks of the living wildlife to answer to it positively as it wasn’t a guarantee of a smooth ever raining after. Calves, cubs and other offsprings, the signs were, were insignificant in numbers this year. And the surviving hyena simply had to learn to survive more by trying to hunt alone whereas hyenas are group hunters.

After the rain and floods after it, the hyena followed deposited material looking for anything to eat until it joined a pack of vultures on a carcass that was almost zero meat left. The mother to this young one had taught her that a thin layer of cartilage and the bone structure it wraps around the knee joins was the most delicious treat in the jungle. The young hyena found the front leg stripped of all the meat upon arrival and dragged it towards sloppy ground since such required her to be on a slope, on the downside of it, pin the bone with her legs while her teeth ate into it.

The vultures laughed. “Why is she ignoring the little meat left in favour of the bone, after all, we don’t eat bones.”

The meat was no match to what her mama had characterised as delicious and she would starve to death for that as she did it over and over, and day after day. With her age and the strength of her teeth taken into account, she could not eat many bones to cover up her nutritional needs. What could have saved her was not delicious but simply the meat.

Don’t chase for what’s exceptionally yours. Chase for what’s rare, for something that if missed you will never get a chance to possess it.

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The toxicity of desire or the benefit of it

Usually in this life. We are shown the fancy things and that can make us like them. We are also shown that can afford them. Already when that happens our hearts are already loving it. What we are not shown are the true costs of affording that exact thing. The bigger cost is forgetting everything else that can matter. it is Forgetting a better life you can achieve without what you have been shown and which you can afford at serious costs. As we are probably all addicted people; that’s the second thing. Addiction plays a bigger part. It helps in showing us what we can afford and while hiding the costs of affording what we can afford.

A desire is irrational. So everything that plays in the chemistry of the heart is with its tendencies to cause harm unless it’s capitalised on to produce positives. Desire is said to be essential in building success. It is also heavily involved in erasing the possibilities of success. So, if the desire is toxic, why is it a benefit of it to the few others. Ladies and gentlemen each one of us, every second, is getting the toxicity of desire or the benefit of it.

If we are allowed to describe an adult life in the context of a moving bus with its passengers. Desire would not be the wheels. Desire is the driver. Each one of us is seated in the backseat and we can’t be heard all the time when we voice at our desires. We are very unlucky that we can’t control or stop the desire as long as our wheels of life are moving. What we can do is just to use it in building the most positive things in our lives.

It can be a desire to be happy. When you desire to be happy it means without being happy you are not fulfilled. The best you can do is to allow that happiness to be out of the least instead of the most you can find. In the same manner, successful people are people who simply directed desire into a bigger vision in life instead of simply allowing it to drive recklessly.

Changing desire into positivity

A desire is the inner working of the human’s wants. It’s the need to emotionally possess, control, be in charge, or even get free and exploit. A desire is largely a terrible thing than it is a good one. Grandfather and I had time to talk about the structures build from around 700 (Great Zimbabwe) to 200 (others) years ago in Zimbabwe. A novel is quoted by some as a source to prove that the stone structures were pilled up into UNESCO-heritage-class monuments at the cost of virtually any man involved in the constructed process. Men had to roll tonnes of stones without the aid of draught power or pulleys which weren’t our thing back then. The story in the novel picked at events happening not so many decades before the colonisation. The building of a second structure resembling Great Zimbabwe happened in the context of the king who wanted a tower that would allow him to touch the moon. 

The novel is wrong as a work of fiction. But it truly showed us the true nature of us humans, and the question left is how to turn that terrible monster, desire, into something positive and make our lives better and the world better places? Here is how to change desire into positivity:

  • Build a vision, not plans. Construct a roadmap, don’t build a highway.
  • Build layers of good habits in you life daily. With good habits there is never enough of it. You can read “Atomic Habits” by James Clear.
  • Have all the detail that can matter in your life. Don’t be a stranger to yourself. Admit what you are to correct it from that point. It must not take anyone to point what you are not at par.
  • Do some value analysis of the things you may want to achieve before you can go for them. It is a great deal to know the value you can give to yourself, the society and your family and the meaning of it. Some things you desire when achieved can simply subtract.
  • Have a serious consideration for others. Though you can not give them your love you can give them your respect.
  • Self-respect is essential in making a person. It is a clear outline of what you can allow yourself to go through, to feel, to be and be involved in.
  • Don’t chase for what’s exceptionally yours. Chase for what’s rare, for something that if missed you will never get a chance to possess it. The hyena here did the opposite and ended up on the losing side.
  • Put some light into your past mistakes to know if toxic desire had been ionvolved in making them. Distance a mistake from a failure for a failure is a better fellow between it and a mistake.
  • Allow yourself to be wrong to be wrong to correct yourself. If you fall on the wrong side no one can imprison you for that. Judge yourself openly, and build yourself in the way.
  • Build inner superiority (interiority). It can beat outter superiority (superiority) or inner weakness (inferirioty). Watch a TedTalks video where this interiority thing is coming from.
  • Have the patience where it is needed not the confidence. Patience can referee your desire into proper results.

What to chase after? Chase for rare opportunities.

What to chase after in life? This is a good question to ask because every second you meet a situation in which you must decide between two or more things; between what’s good and what’s bad; between what’s present and what’s absent; between what’s satisfying in the present and what may bring satisfaction in the future, and so on. In our journeys to greatness or our demise, the choices we make are then followed by priorities and motives to determine the extent of our success.

Chase for things that you will never have a chance to once gone

If you don’t get into marriage at eighteen it means at twenty you can get a chance, if not so at twenty-five you can get it, if not at twenty-five maybe at thirty-five or later than that. It is exceptionally your thing that one day you will be in marriage if you want to be in a marriage one day. But most of the time we fight hard for the things that are exceptionally ours, the things we can get any time later than now, and forget the things that if not achieved now there is never to be a chance, ever.

If I lose that interview for a top job, chances are I will not find another top job interview earlier. It’s a chance that if erased it’s erased for sure and I can’t have a voice at it. It is what to chase after and fight for.

If a certain type of cancer crouches into a family. Then suddenly it’s curable for the time being before it gets into an incurable stage at a cost that can leave the family three times poorer than it is now. Wasting money on it is better than not. Because curing it now is a chance that if erased it won’t be available two years after whilst money is a different thing.

If you chase for the things that are rare and simply wait for those that are exceptionally yours and, therefore, not rare to you, you can flourish. By doing so you are approaching your desire and have it result in more positives than negatives as desire can be toxic. Because by default we are bound to simply chase after the things that are exceptionally ours, save that money in the account while a family member suffers from that cancer. The thing is those things that are exceptionally ours are enticing.

At the family level, in corporate systems, at the national level and in religious organisations, some decisions made wrongly involved chasing after things that were exceptional and not rare to the group. Nokia foresaw the hints of its downfall in early 2009 when the iPhone’s form-factor was proving to be a big deal. Instead of just delivering a complete device that would be at the market with more than iPhone’s offering they simply put only a camera to their usual hardware, those things they had become experts in delivering. A capable Operating System was needed and the money to even give developers with the most downloads, free, and therefore build a perfect app store by subsidizing developers with numerous downloads. A fluid capacitative touchscreen instead of the “ATM touchscreen tech”/TFT resistive touchscreen was needed. That screen came in November 2009, almost three years after Apple had introduced it.

There are times when new strengths must be built instead of just investing in those we have already. Chasing must be reserved for what’s rare or what’s not in our possession. That being said there are sometimes when something is not rare but just a thing not in our possession. At a personal level, this even inhibits building more better habits. Useful ones we don’t have are always left out in the habit-building system in favour of strengthening the ones in us already.

Success is rare than the opposite of it. Sadness is just an inch away from you while happiness is miles off. Spreading your bed every morning you wake up is a habit as easier to live in than other habits that must be involved in building your true path. So, it’s success, it’s happiness, building the true path to success, among other things, that you must chase after.

I will still breathe the same~Monologue and minimalism.

Give me a quick coming-fast elevation to the top of the mountain. I will still breathe the same. I am not superhuman, and that means any other can still make it to the same top of the mountain.

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I will still breathe the same

Decorate me with the most expensive jewellery on the planet. My nerves won’t change their colour. Deep down the glittering, I am still a human living in earthly terms. Will still breathe the same.

Cove me in and out with your full loyalty. I will not become bulletproof as I will still breathe the same. My end is always near as it appears far. In fact, when I imagine sharing this world with ancestors born hundreds of years ago I think of how lower could have become my privileges from the day I was born. My not totally being invincible is so much of some good news to the future after my departure because someone there in the place called future is waiting to correct my mistakes. That better version of me in the place called the future will be born to work better and correct mistakes in my absence.

I can start the fire and provide warmth for the mindless. But I always burn depleting my power each day until I am no more. That alone is a testimony that I wasn’t meant to run alive forever. I can be classy to work perfectly as a machine. But even with proper conditioning and greasing myself with a good diet, my hands can still get to turn shaky in my trend downwards.

I can live terribly or incredibly. I can live any way I wish. Living the proper way is not in the wishes. It is from defining carefully proper living. It is living purposefully. Therefore, I will live the same.

Long-term benefits must be what I look for when I engage in anything. The true value in me is nothing but my existence. The fact that I am going to die at the end of it is encouraging. Because where I fail there is always someone to come after me and correct it. So I love it when I fail and fail to get it right. The future of mine is infinity.

Get me under the thickets. Lock me behind bars for years. I will come out not shattered. I will come out with a purpose. Because normally my attention and effort goes into my needs and wants. If there is a third thing to put my attention and effort into it must be a purpose.

Hurt me once. I recover before you finish hurting me. I forgive you before you even forget it. It is above all strengths to be strong on the inside than outside. I cherish my inner superiority. It doesn’t die easy, and it’s never polarised to lose its sight to see in the haze.

I would rather be under the feet of the whole world and stay there unnoticed and be well up above in my world, notice myself and discover my capabilities. I am always high when I am down.

And I will still breathe the same.

More form the motivational monologue

Monologue is when we pick up our voice recorders and say things through them on a random topic non-stop, only to do nothing with those words said but to publish them. Here are more Motivational monologues.

Failure: What’s good advice to anyone failing?

Mickey Rooner on Failure

What’s my advice to persons who just failed?

Put your failure in your wallet. Have it there as your legal tender. It can buy something for you. Between you and your success, there is your failure.

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Just because you have failed, it doesn’t mean that what you were and what you are doing is what can lead to failure.

You may not like it when you fail. But don’t hate it when you fail. The first thing is you must learn from your failure and you cannot learn from a teacher you hate. The other thing is not liking it is different from hating it.

Keep trying when you fail if your heart is telling you that you love that run you have not won yet. I would rather feel the hate in what I love than feel the love in what I hate. Feel the doom in what you love the most than promises in what your heart isn’t ticking for. One day it will come right.

Failure is not an invention. If you fail it’s not that someone invented the kind of failure you are in. Take a deeper look into you because it is you whom you must correct to come up with a machine born to succeed. The majority would rather distance themselves and put their failure somewhere far so that they can be safer from it and fail to understand it and fail to learn from it and fail again. But there are ways to bring in a failure into bringing in your success.

Success is about how many capabilities you build. When you fail it means you are some capabilities before success. To catch up you need to keep multiplying your capabilities. It’s painful such capabilities but not like watching yourself remain in that failure forever.

Related: In your journey to success, these thoughts can get you far

Apparently, if you are always right everything becomes wrong. When you fail allow it to be much more of how others solve issues between them and their partners. They just avoid being correct and admit that they are wrong. When you fail you are advised to ask yourself “what went wrong?” and “what’s my fault in this wrong?” and to choose answers to such questions that are not self-biased.

Put your failure in your wallet. Have it there as your legal tender. It can buy something for you. Between you and your success, there is your failure. Avoid not going through that bridge. You are making a serious wrong. You grow through a failure, and that type of growth is called “growing in strength“.

In the making of a failure, there is always something that you avoided you shouldn’t have avoided; something you should have avoided you didn’t; something that you missed you shouldn’t have; something you didn’t miss you should have missed.

Among winners in the major wars fought there are some losers who we say to have won the war when the losses they have made are immense. Think of it if being on the winning side doesn’t really mean you are a winner, being on the losing side is not designed to mean that you are really a loser. Lose while in your path to ultimate victory. Fail while determined to ultimately win.

Think long-term. Then work on it. Results don’t have to come yesterday or today or even tomorrow. It’s possible to win the game with consistency and patience being your both arms that with confidence and endowment being your footstool.

If you are playing the game and losing over and over, it may mean that you haven’t tried to play it in your own game. Give yourself a position and an environment that can allow you to strike a difference.

Build good habits and put formality in them. So that it can cease to be just making sure that when you are an author writing 300 words when you wake up is the first thing to do but writing them on a perfect desk instead of your bed is the first to do. We are all habitual beings. A good habit system keeps us on the good side of what we are (habitual). Formality gets us to respect what we are (habitual) and what we aspire to be through the habits.

Focus. Live like a normal person with an abnormal purpose on the planet. Allow your body to rest and feed it well, and if you respect it it can work for you without a flaw. A failure is not the end of it all. It may be a new twist to the story, a story that relies on the script you write.

Why do we fail or fall?

Why do we fail or fall?

Lessons from a cyclist falling twice in one journey

Why do we fail or fall? That is the question I had to ask myself after an incident as I was writing an article on the seven ways of bringing in your failure to yelp in bringing your success (not this one). The fence ran parallel to a lot of lands my parents rented connecting business centres. The road is not busy and a girl rode her bicycle passing by as I watered. As I fixed my eyes on her I had not much in mind more than admiring. But she fell before she could disappear from my view.

Her riding was good. How did she fell? She explained to me as I rushed to the scene to help her up. A plastic sachet, empty now, caused her front wheel to turn some degrees off the actual direction. The back wheel couldn’t miss stepping over the same hazard and increasing the angle in degrees. Her momentum kept pushing her in the line of her actual direction but the bike had picked another direction.

Where I stay we milk the cows. Allow the milk to go for days until it develops some lumps. Bacteria accumulates in such milk and it renders it “decayed milk”, but all is safe for consumption and it’s sour milk. Diary companies can also pack it and sell it plastic sachets. Lying in the path of a cyclist, a single sachet here became a problem as milk fat greased one of its plies to move swiftly opposite the one underneath.

Yet thirteen metres from her first scene she had fallen down again. Moved by the crowd laughing she wanted to disappear fast but she simply fell again. Why would they laugh? Is it ideal anyhow to do things in a hurry or terribly because people are laughing?

“What to do?” She asked.

“You feel that you must ride? Don’t ride again until you can.” I said.

When someone says do what you can. S/he is simply telling you to do what’s in your capabilities. She is an expert, right? But current conditions meant that she was not able to ride in that meantime. Her hands were shaky. Her knees needed more time to recover from pain. Making a sacrifice to ride at this point wasn’t ideal. Because she was going through an inability phase.

When someone says do what you must. He is simply urging you to make a sacrifice. The sacrifice to be made was simply walking away on foot. But in most cases, we sacrifice on anything in and out impossible than on difficult but possible things.

Just because you have fallen down it cannot mean that you cannot fall again. Once you fall you need to work on your way up and on keeping yourself up totally.

She had fallen once. It was not her fault. Her second fall brought into question her part in making each fall including the first one. In the last, anger the feeling of being embarrassed all came in and combined with that inability phase.

A quick answer to why do we fail or fall is simple. We fail because we are not invincible. We fail because success must be harder to attain because success is not for everyone.

She probably saw the planting lying ahead but she simply aimed at it. We, therefore, fail because we sometimes fail to perceive a threat as a threat. It is harder for each one of us to perceive a threat as a threat without understanding it. She didn’t know that the laws of motion would interfere in the midst of her journey to prove her experience wrong.

If she was aware of the physics chances of understanding the magnitude of her threat were low, and there was supposed to be a big lag between her seeing the threat, analysing it to its core and understanding it as a threat to finally avoid it. We fail, therefore, because situations normally don’t give us plenty of time to respond.

She rode her bike as a cyclist. But a certain situation required her to be versatile to understand some physics in her journey.

She was in a hurry. All that mattered was arriving, and second in her order of importance was arriving safe etc. Such an “order of importance” became a cause for her falling. Arriving safely is important and we usually forget that in our journeys in life.

The second fall happened because she was assured that the first fall was the last in her journey. We fail because we are easily assured that we can’t fail anymore.

Each worst moment is a teacher. When it speaks to us we hate it and the result is we don’t learn it and the result is more failure ahead. We fail because failure is one thing that cannot be stopped by our being experts.

The illusion of good life is living in credit.

The illusion of good life is a costful life and an enemy to success

The life you want, if I give it to you now, you can live the worst you can in your future. And I will not give you that!

My uncle, when he said this, meant that the quality and quantities of meals I desired and the care I longed to be given were expensive, and would not be achieved at once with what he was delivering then. Yes, we had the worst meals in the neighbourhood, but that care and quality I desired in my life and my meals, respectively, was an illusion of good life. He meant that affording what we can afford is never wrong. But we mostly do so at a scale of costs that are fatal in the books of either our success or our true happiness and satisfaction.

I didn’t see that the cheaper meals, and my going for a month without having tasted meat, among other things, allowed much to be left in the hands of the provider, my uncle. Left with a bit more the selfless provider would move on to pump money into our pockets after each gig I and other boys performed as assistant roofing carpenters. That money wasn’t really a lot but it was much to us. As for me, it was a big step ahead.

We mostly live at a credit. We would rather live at a credit than have the least we don’t heavily pay for and then go on to make the most with the least.

Cheaper meals are the least. But they guaranteed a $40 payout instead of $5 per contract. A $40 payout helped to put my imagination into a vision.

Quickly I learned, you can easily buy your misery back if you choose to have the most that your income can’t afford at zero credit. “Credit” in this usage here does not translate to debt. It is our potential we sell away through the illusion of buying some good life.

The things you get free in this life when others are paying properly and waiting for the right time to be able to enjoy them are what you pay for with your life. If not your life it must be your chances of succeeding in this life.

Why things are as in the statement above?

The system in this world is one paying. Anyone of us may be smarter in any sense. To get whatever s/he can get free. But s/he can pay for what s/he doesn’t pay for with his/her chances of seeing greater things in life.

It is cheaper to be the least you can be. Because in being that you can make the most. If you can add things like a vision in building your life, the “least path” can always leave you with the most to put into your vision.

In most cases, we think success is driven by a few things. I believe that patience and all other few items are all you can have. Someone else can say it’s desire. But the true thing is success comes through being a high-performance person in as many components, mentalities, aspects and practices that drives it.

In your journey to success, these thoughts can get you far.

Quick thoughts to get you by in your journey to success.

We are accustomed to thinking that success and greatness are achieved through hard work. That is never wrong when success is defined as how you fare in a competition setup. A hard worker can be anyone among us. But hardworking is scarcely rewarding alone.

That’s why there should be hard thinking, too. Hard thinking, thinking that becomes a personal philosophy with not only escape routes but fighting styles, when combined with moderate working and sleepful nights can bring goodies into our lives. 

Work must cease to be hard work to become a working work. When you can’t conquer, you find means to do that. By default we are all bound to fail. The way to change this is you and not anyone. You are the one to tweak original you into someone who is but to be successful. The inner invincibility beats the outer invincibility. Have it developing in you.

I don’t wish to see success coming during the first try. Success must remain harder to attain so that it can only remain success that is for those who deserve it. For success is proof that you really wanted it and it had to happen. It is also success again to have the best version of happiness in your hands that others don’t.

Success is not hardworking as they say. It may be the depth of the tweaking you do to what’s the default. In this world, we are sometimes taught to remain into what’s default to help build success for others.

Sometimes you need to retire out of the competition and simply beat them. In a big company, to succeed you are expected to have five PhDs, one or two achievements in other companies. Behind you, there must be hints of hard work as expected ahead. Does this all mean without having the brilliance and the chance to earn the PhDs you can not achieve?

Break out of thinking cycles to create a line that shoots up in a straight line that grows up. New forms of doing it can make doing the same thing a big difference. People who can’t qualify to be CEOs are people who own the production line, so they simply declared themselves CEOs out of what they came up with. They faced struggles but they couldn’t be brave enough to keep facing failure forever.

The world always existed before you were there. If you think you are born early. Well! Some thinking is always there earlier for you to only take it as your thinking. The world has been influenced in your absence. Where you find it disagreeing with you. Do fight it. Influence it. Don’t hesitate to influence the world. Because in your absence the worst can influence it and keep turning it into a bad place.

Don’t do a business. Do your business. Don’t plan. Build a vision. Don’t travel. Construct a roadmap. Don’t desire to be successful. Build your own definition of success and live in it. After that erase the definition when it’s limiting.

Any definition is good except when it’s in place to defeat the freedoms of other beings.

There may be things to avoid in life. You are taught about them in life, growing up, at school and at home. It’s fifty-fifty. But most of the time instead of being taught to avoid you are taught to hate.

Hate spreads over. Spills into other related things. With hate, there s no ‘do it your own way’ you just hate. With avoiding you can avoid it your own way. Some successful people in the world of tech including in the addicting gaming industry didn’t have to hate the screen as it is a time waster to be detested. They avoided what they avoided on the screen in their own ways and allowed their success to come through the same screen.

In other words, don’t know what to hate. Know what to avoid.

After all, it’s better to be a victim of falling in love than a victim of hate.  For a victim of hating something not really negative is always a victim.

So, don’t say “I really hate it” as it is invincible to say “I don’t like it very much” — because in the latter there is room to change.

Most people who get their freedom fail to utilise it. If you don’t have the freedom you are just unlucky. That’s why you must create that freedom. You must waste no time fighting for very unnecessary freedoms, just influence things to get it.

Allow ambition to be what you balance on not what you move by.

Intoxicating? This is how to deal with digital addiction

It’s hard to imagine how each day new things to drawn us into digital addiction on the tech front are showing up. The pressure is massive we can’t hold the line. The question is how exactly can each one of us deal with that problem. It can be prevented. It can be cured. When these two approached can’t work or can’t prove worthy, digital addiction can be turned into a profit. A serious profit.

Preventing digital addiction

Prevention is avoidance. Avoidance is abstinence. Abstinence is like conservatism. It can work as it cannot work always.

Prevention is having that smartphone and allow it to be there untouched, except when necessary. Through it, you can avoid other pieces of tech and be ok with it. You can gain your time and part of your time that others count on for their happiness.

For it to work you are expected to be aware that:

  • Addiction can be addiction on anything.
  • There is always the helpful side of anything “terribly bad”. You can create a social account and advertise through it. As someone creates one, borrow a loan to buy the services of the best photographer in the town who can help with good photos that can win personal likes and nothing else.
  • Where these is addiction there are promises of profits as well as those of big losses.
  • Of all the forms of addiction existing in this world, digital addiction is the most complex. We can go for three hours in the Candy Crushing Saga and think of anyone else on the same screen doing something else as addicted. The things is, there are millions of addiction on one screen or control. Some may be helpful. I heard that someone quitted smoking by switching to PlayStation.
  • There are many things you can do to be free while not preventing your presence in what digitally addicts. There is one thing you can do when you simply prevent yourself. Preventing.
  • Keep yourself an owner of budget tech since by your preventing much of you are an average user. This can help you in preventing unnecessary spending.

If you belong to the prevention faction you don’t pick up the digital side of things as a quick fix to the needs of your leisure time. “Oh, I have been studying hard. So, after exams, I will spend hours gaming.” This is not good for you.

Every form of addiction is bad no matter whether the narcotic be alcoholic or morphine or idealism

Carl Gustav Jung, Memories, Dream, Reflections

Curing digital addiction

Basing on my experience I give you my eight points.

  1. Just when you need to be there the most. Accepting defeat works. You must act as if you are accepting defeat. This goes for adult sides and addicting games or spaces online. Right in the middle of your writing an assignment you can find yourself stuck in one tab. Close it without hesitation as if you are accepting defeat. Walk away when you need to play the most. “I am leaving this game without a win. Without my satisfaction achieved.”
  2. Allow your digital world to be governed by your world of good habits. If doing you bed just as your feet land of the floor happens. Giving that social account only your Friday can be your thing to work on as it is necessary.
  3. Admitting that you are a victim is a fortfying ideal. You see, digital world bring the possibilities of anything through a simple screen, or a simple anything. And that is an immense opportunity. Victims of the digital world are increasingly out of their intention. Admitting that you are a victim instead of benefiary is enlightening.
  4. Addiction can be addiction on anything. Understanding that is key to unlocking much including your chances to see that you are drowning in digital addicted.
  5. You can create ghost accounts for advertising and make no friends online. When new things show up they create an illusion that old things no longer work and old friendship can’t save us. This is not good for us.
  6. The slower return to innocence.Try to get yourself into wasting time on less harmful content that on very harmful content. Once less harmful content becomes your thing. You then try to waste your time on productivity stuff than on less ahrmful content.
  7. Digital desertification can starve your addiction. Try to spend months or a year withouts gadgets you love the most. It can help. You can also delete accounts.
  8. Don’t try what you haven’t tried. I repeat! Don’t try what you haven’t tried!
  9. Devine speration is for those who can afford. If resources can allow, compartmentalisation of your digital resources is ideal. You can have a smartphone for social networking to play that part alone while another smartphone is for productive issues. A room can be for gaming and stuff and stuff. It can free up your tools from being both but to be either productive or otherwise.

Not curing and preventing digital addiction and simply benefit from it.

You can get paid through an addiction. That’s the good part. Find means to sell the products of your addiction. Artists are addicted to their art and they sell it. An addicted gamer is likely to be the one who can be the industry’s most credible commentary.

That smartphone or whatever is not going to cease to be your companion. You cannot change this fact.

All you can do is to stay in the positive. You can join social networks and platforms that can enhance you instead of ruining you. You can learn something when you answer a question on quora than when you post a nice selfie.

Download those productivity apps and give them personal use. Be emotionally attached because if you don’t you will still revert back to where you came from. Emotional attachment is why we are addicted to those sites and gadgets we are addicted to. Digital addiction is not bad because we can use it to achieve greater things in life.

If you believe in the digital world you must defend the fragment of the digital world you believe in and save your world through it. You are more efficient than one who is without. Be efficient.