In eighty per cent. of the times when there is a wrong either involving you or hurting you be either wrong inside. I say eighty per cent. because it is not much of the time you admit a wrong just to be punished for doing so. I say admit because when you do, you don’t blame someone. If you don’t admit much of the wrongs involving you or affecting you don’t see the right course of action to pick; you don’t create solutions but dead ends. You blame that’s the end of it. An end that is you visually impaired.
Admitting is the start of any quest. Admitting that you don’t have for example can result in you getting to look for what you don’t have. And if you admit that you’re poor you are different from one who thinks that he is not poor when he is. You are likely to walk out of poverty and be the most balanced individual with respect to the human race. Admitting the wrong (which is your poverty) instead of taking it as solely a problem by someone is a good starting point.
You need to start by admitting because most of the time when you take a wrong as yours or partly yours you correct it. When you find yourself in tension with a loved one admitting that the fault is partly yours can help to create a common solution. If they accept their part, if you do, the solution to come after is a solution with both contributions to the problem it is neutralising. You act quick when you admit. You throw some action where it is needed. Some solutions works depending on the angle you are putting them from. Hot solutions can burn. Calm ones with your part in them give you the power to make more and be meaningful in life.
Life is a one-time event but it’s a container of millions of wrongs, perfections, mere misses, good deeds, follow-ups and more. You as an individual must make the lanes. The requirements behind perfections are fault-free actions behind, including wrongs that are corrected to bake corrections. You don’t correct without having to admit much of the wrongs you are involved in, your history is involved in, their part of history is involving yours. Admitting is the first step behind a correction. Admitting that a correction is needed begins by accepting the wrongs that define the extent to which a correction can go. The level of perfection is a mileage that you can go with accepting the wrongs. When you’re not happy, dive into your part causing your lack of happiness before you look into theirs. Gather the long-term causes involved in your sadness first. Flirt with the short-term causes last.
It’s courage. To face yourself and say “you’re wrong for being this, for getting used to this, for being bad at this, for not mending this.” It is frightening not to be looking at them and say “they caused this I am, they harmed me, they were sleeping and I am covering their job, who am I to clean up someone’s mess.” Courage is bravery. You’re brave when you face yourself.
It’s someone’s mess. It may be. But it is yours now when it is involving your life. Your dad wasn’t a good dad. If you keep on being a bad child the pain is yours to feel. Admit that you can be a bad child before you think of someone behind that. For a reaction is big when the catalyst is inside. For reaction is zero when there is not a catalyst. She is your wife but are you being her husband. Admit so that you give first before you expect to be given. So that you understand that a loss is a gain.
You’re not in the court and no one can punish you for being wrong. Admit. Close your eyes. Open your mind and have it see deep inside you. For closing your eyes is not sleeping and inside you there is a bigger word to see. See and put what you must put to shame to shame. You are a human. Shameful is not you. Shameful is what you may contain. You’re a container.
You must admit that wrongs can be you without you having been there when they were made. Admitting is the first step. Doing something is another. Doing something with your doing something is again another. Engineers keep on modifying their work in the inside and but it’s natural and artificial forces it is designed to face, forces that are outside. When they put their work that way the result is the best work ever done.
Someone who is guilt doesn’t sit down and relax. He stands and fights like one involved. He doesn’t have to wait for them to fight for him. Be guilty in eight if the ten times and save yourself.