Failure

Failure: What’s good advice to anyone failing?

Mickey Rooner on Failure

What’s my advice to persons who just failed?

Put your failure in your wallet. Have it there as your legal tender. It can buy something for you. Between you and your success, there is your failure.

SubjectMe, Meinrad Socien

Just because you have failed, it doesn’t mean that what you were and what you are doing is what can lead to failure.

You may not like it when you fail. But don’t hate it when you fail. The first thing is you must learn from your failure and you cannot learn from a teacher you hate. The other thing is not liking it is different from hating it.

Keep trying when you fail if your heart is telling you that you love that run you have not won yet. I would rather feel the hate in what I love than feel the love in what I hate. Feel the doom in what you love the most than promises in what your heart isn’t ticking for. One day it will come right.

Failure is not an invention. If you fail it’s not that someone invented the kind of failure you are in. Take a deeper look into you because it is you whom you must correct to come up with a machine born to succeed. The majority would rather distance themselves and put their failure somewhere far so that they can be safer from it and fail to understand it and fail to learn from it and fail again. But there are ways to bring in a failure into bringing in your success.

Success is about how many capabilities you build. When you fail it means you are some capabilities before success. To catch up you need to keep multiplying your capabilities. It’s painful such capabilities but not like watching yourself remain in that failure forever.

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Apparently, if you are always right everything becomes wrong. When you fail allow it to be much more of how others solve issues between them and their partners. They just avoid being correct and admit that they are wrong. When you fail you are advised to ask yourself “what went wrong?” and “what’s my fault in this wrong?” and to choose answers to such questions that are not self-biased.

Put your failure in your wallet. Have it there as your legal tender. It can buy something for you. Between you and your success, there is your failure. Avoid not going through that bridge. You are making a serious wrong. You grow through a failure, and that type of growth is called “growing in strength“.

In the making of a failure, there is always something that you avoided you shouldn’t have avoided; something you should have avoided you didn’t; something that you missed you shouldn’t have; something you didn’t miss you should have missed.

Among winners in the major wars fought there are some losers who we say to have won the war when the losses they have made are immense. Think of it if being on the winning side doesn’t really mean you are a winner, being on the losing side is not designed to mean that you are really a loser. Lose while in your path to ultimate victory. Fail while determined to ultimately win.

Think long-term. Then work on it. Results don’t have to come yesterday or today or even tomorrow. It’s possible to win the game with consistency and patience being your both arms that with confidence and endowment being your footstool.

If you are playing the game and losing over and over, it may mean that you haven’t tried to play it in your own game. Give yourself a position and an environment that can allow you to strike a difference.

Build good habits and put formality in them. So that it can cease to be just making sure that when you are an author writing 300 words when you wake up is the first thing to do but writing them on a perfect desk instead of your bed is the first to do. We are all habitual beings. A good habit system keeps us on the good side of what we are (habitual). Formality gets us to respect what we are (habitual) and what we aspire to be through the habits.

Focus. Live like a normal person with an abnormal purpose on the planet. Allow your body to rest and feed it well, and if you respect it it can work for you without a flaw. A failure is not the end of it all. It may be a new twist to the story, a story that relies on the script you write.

Why do we fail or fall?

Why do we fail or fall?

Lessons from a cyclist falling twice in one journey

Why do we fail or fall? That is the question I had to ask myself after an incident as I was writing an article on the seven ways of bringing in your failure to yelp in bringing your success (not this one). The fence ran parallel to a lot of lands my parents rented connecting business centres. The road is not busy and a girl rode her bicycle passing by as I watered. As I fixed my eyes on her I had not much in mind more than admiring. But she fell before she could disappear from my view.

Her riding was good. How did she fell? She explained to me as I rushed to the scene to help her up. A plastic sachet, empty now, caused her front wheel to turn some degrees off the actual direction. The back wheel couldn’t miss stepping over the same hazard and increasing the angle in degrees. Her momentum kept pushing her in the line of her actual direction but the bike had picked another direction.

Where I stay we milk the cows. Allow the milk to go for days until it develops some lumps. Bacteria accumulates in such milk and it renders it “decayed milk”, but all is safe for consumption and it’s sour milk. Diary companies can also pack it and sell it plastic sachets. Lying in the path of a cyclist, a single sachet here became a problem as milk fat greased one of its plies to move swiftly opposite the one underneath.

Yet thirteen metres from her first scene she had fallen down again. Moved by the crowd laughing she wanted to disappear fast but she simply fell again. Why would they laugh? Is it ideal anyhow to do things in a hurry or terribly because people are laughing?

“What to do?” She asked.

“You feel that you must ride? Don’t ride again until you can.” I said.

When someone says do what you can. S/he is simply telling you to do what’s in your capabilities. She is an expert, right? But current conditions meant that she was not able to ride in that meantime. Her hands were shaky. Her knees needed more time to recover from pain. Making a sacrifice to ride at this point wasn’t ideal. Because she was going through an inability phase.

When someone says do what you must. He is simply urging you to make a sacrifice. The sacrifice to be made was simply walking away on foot. But in most cases, we sacrifice on anything in and out impossible than on difficult but possible things.

Just because you have fallen down it cannot mean that you cannot fall again. Once you fall you need to work on your way up and on keeping yourself up totally.

She had fallen once. It was not her fault. Her second fall brought into question her part in making each fall including the first one. In the last, anger the feeling of being embarrassed all came in and combined with that inability phase.

A quick answer to why do we fail or fall is simple. We fail because we are not invincible. We fail because success must be harder to attain because success is not for everyone.

She probably saw the planting lying ahead but she simply aimed at it. We, therefore, fail because we sometimes fail to perceive a threat as a threat. It is harder for each one of us to perceive a threat as a threat without understanding it. She didn’t know that the laws of motion would interfere in the midst of her journey to prove her experience wrong.

If she was aware of the physics chances of understanding the magnitude of her threat were low, and there was supposed to be a big lag between her seeing the threat, analysing it to its core and understanding it as a threat to finally avoid it. We fail, therefore, because situations normally don’t give us plenty of time to respond.

She rode her bike as a cyclist. But a certain situation required her to be versatile to understand some physics in her journey.

She was in a hurry. All that mattered was arriving, and second in her order of importance was arriving safe etc. Such an “order of importance” became a cause for her falling. Arriving safely is important and we usually forget that in our journeys in life.

The second fall happened because she was assured that the first fall was the last in her journey. We fail because we are easily assured that we can’t fail anymore.

Each worst moment is a teacher. When it speaks to us we hate it and the result is we don’t learn it and the result is more failure ahead. We fail because failure is one thing that cannot be stopped by our being experts.

7 ways of bringing in your failures to help in bringing your success

The impact a failure in your life can make is simply a result of how you take that failure as or how you take it in building the possibilities of your success in the future. You don’t build bridges without the roads behind them in mind, and such roads are the roads you constructed best as much as they are roads you failed.

  1. Have a detailed means of looking into your failure apart from the results of what you did.

You have failed to generate money.  You have tried and trying couldn’t produce any better results. The first thing you communicate to yourself is a failure, and you’re likely to use the generated money which is not a profit at all as a point to determine your failure.

It’s a good thing not to look at results alone but the vehicles you travelled through in you journey and all that got you into starting. Allow your failure to also become  (1) failure to have money (capital) result into more money and (2) failure to have what seemed to be your best idea result into what the best idea can result in.

  1. Judge your failure like you are a legal system

Act as if crime is a failure. Put those pieces of evidence of your failure in and fail to be your attorney and keep yourself ‘in trouble for a while’. Failures that are our habits may need correct judgement. Without a correct judgement, you can never take yourself as failing if a spending habit is failing you. By nature we humans defend habits. Learn to go by ‘something can be wrong’.

Sue yourself. Admit that you’re wrong, and you can never face imprisonment. The truth can allow you to have some better clarity. A good sniper does his dirt work in an elevated space where he can see all.

  1. Correctional routes

A deeper conversation with yourself with no wall of pride to build or pride to defend works. Be born again in each conversation. Try new tactics, and if you’re withholding too much try to lose a bit more. Keep your paths clean of bias. Try also to put someone who sees things the way you see them into the issue. Give that person a better view to see and help you in all of it.

You’re not a school of thought be flexible. It can help you to fit into what’s appropriate at the time. 

Failures, if read them correctly, can help in character change. Since, however, they stand in the path towards attaining our desires we are inclined to hate them more and push them aside as we try to make a better future. 

  1. Failures are obviously in the past, the fact that you didn’t drown through them is encouraging

Don’t be stuck because your life is not over yet. If you mourn failures they can bury you alive. Just move out of them to be in your future.

Quickly forgive your failures and yourself. Don’t forget them. You can always have a quick reference from them and it’s good.

Experience is not a type of play, It’s an outcome of plays behind, lost matches and won matches. It matters more than your love of winning.

  1. Failures are probably not just failures
  • They are failures, the final outcome that is not anticipated, or that is totally negative.
  • They contain hints key to achieving success, and all what might be needed for any kind of breakthrough.
  • They are obvious wins in them,  but not powerful enough to to beat failures in such failures.
  • Hints for breakthrough are not the breakthrough itself. They are just items waiting to be thrown in the next attempt at the rightful moments after a certain effort is already put in
  • A guide into what you need to do to increase your odds of winning
  1. There is nothing called an opportunity, and you fail not because it wasn’t there

If you believe that your past failures happened because you lacked the opportunity you’re only creating disasters for yourself. You’re the best opportunity best available to yourself. By just forgetting there’s opportunity in the vocabulary of success you’re opening vast chances for your breakthrough. 

An opportunity is something not in your control. Forget it because you don’t need it as you’re the best moving opportunity available to you in each blink of an eye.

  1. Your failures and their failures are crucial in your complementary learning 

Complementary learning in this case is some learning that enhances your formal studies (what’s taught or what you teach yourself) that are never adequate without a learning through being given questions to answer, creating questions to answer, answering questions and being answered when you ask.

My personal wish was to become a mobile app developer. I failed, I failed even to master any meaningful programming stuff. In the mix were things like lack of resources, no tech-acquainted people around me and Google’s Play Store was only open for the business of developers in two countries in my continent when I started, and it only meant that I could only upload the app without getting to monetise.

Complementary learning is when I chase after the knowledge to get my app to sell, and to be able one day to employ a capable team. It is chasing after the knowledge I didn’t have then as it is about extracting the “reasons why such a failure can happen”. Their failures and your failures are good watering holes to swell your current dreams with success.

In short, your failures in the past should have you learn more to add to the stuff you’re formally learning and come up with “the right knowledge of applying knowledge.”