Lessons from a cyclist falling twice in one journey
Why do we fail or fall? That is the question I had to ask myself after an incident as I was writing an article on the seven ways of bringing in your failure to yelp in bringing your success (not this one). The fence ran parallel to a lot of lands my parents rented connecting business centres. The road is not busy and a girl rode her bicycle passing by as I watered. As I fixed my eyes on her I had not much in mind more than admiring. But she fell before she could disappear from my view.
Her riding was good. How did she fell? She explained to me as I rushed to the scene to help her up. A plastic sachet, empty now, caused her front wheel to turn some degrees off the actual direction. The back wheel couldn’t miss stepping over the same hazard and increasing the angle in degrees. Her momentum kept pushing her in the line of her actual direction but the bike had picked another direction.
Where I stay we milk the cows. Allow the milk to go for days until it develops some lumps. Bacteria accumulates in such milk and it renders it “decayed milk”, but all is safe for consumption and it’s sour milk. Diary companies can also pack it and sell it plastic sachets. Lying in the path of a cyclist, a single sachet here became a problem as milk fat greased one of its plies to move swiftly opposite the one underneath.
Yet thirteen metres from her first scene she had fallen down again. Moved by the crowd laughing she wanted to disappear fast but she simply fell again. Why would they laugh? Is it ideal anyhow to do things in a hurry or terribly because people are laughing?
“What to do?” She asked.
“You feel that you must ride? Don’t ride again until you can.” I said.
When someone says do what you can. S/he is simply telling you to do what’s in your capabilities. She is an expert, right? But current conditions meant that she was not able to ride in that meantime. Her hands were shaky. Her knees needed more time to recover from pain. Making a sacrifice to ride at this point wasn’t ideal. Because she was going through an inability phase.
When someone says do what you must. He is simply urging you to make a sacrifice. The sacrifice to be made was simply walking away on foot. But in most cases, we sacrifice on anything in and out impossible than on difficult but possible things.
Just because you have fallen down it cannot mean that you cannot fall again. Once you fall you need to work on your way up and on keeping yourself up totally.
She had fallen once. It was not her fault. Her second fall brought into question her part in making each fall including the first one. In the last, anger the feeling of being embarrassed all came in and combined with that inability phase.
A quick answer to why do we fail or fall is simple. We fail because we are not invincible. We fail because success must be harder to attain because success is not for everyone.
She probably saw the planting lying ahead but she simply aimed at it. We, therefore, fail because we sometimes fail to perceive a threat as a threat. It is harder for each one of us to perceive a threat as a threat without understanding it. She didn’t know that the laws of motion would interfere in the midst of her journey to prove her experience wrong.
If she was aware of the physics chances of understanding the magnitude of her threat were low, and there was supposed to be a big lag between her seeing the threat, analysing it to its core and understanding it as a threat to finally avoid it. We fail, therefore, because situations normally don’t give us plenty of time to respond.
She rode her bike as a cyclist. But a certain situation required her to be versatile to understand some physics in her journey.
She was in a hurry. All that mattered was arriving, and second in her order of importance was arriving safe etc. Such an “order of importance” became a cause for her falling. Arriving safely is important and we usually forget that in our journeys in life.
The second fall happened because she was assured that the first fall was the last in her journey. We fail because we are easily assured that we can’t fail anymore.
Each worst moment is a teacher. When it speaks to us we hate it and the result is we don’t learn it and the result is more failure ahead. We fail because failure is one thing that cannot be stopped by our being experts.