Why simply admiring ‘role models’ is wrong and won’t make you successful.

It’s easier to see their success. Not only do we see theirs, we feel it and it sort of gives us pressure but the confidence to come up with ours. We admire and put these successful people on our role-model shelves, and try to build our stories with them in mind and also learn from them. Yet from these seven points, success is not a single-sided coin we see through the successful figures around us.

  1. Success is by mechanism harder to attain. It must be so that only those who deserve to attain are those who can attain it.
  2. Like in a viral image seen online where a man holds a placard to the people in from of him “Success” while words like suffering, rejection and pain are written at the back of his formal jacket. It is so loud  that it can help to cover up all they went through to attain it.
  3. Because we want smooth process and because pain is a hard to endure we also help to hide the pain behind the successful people’s success to create a narrative of a smooth process and high IQ minds involved. Anyone among us who aims success who picks at role models does it with wrong reasons.
  4. Even with the right information about all rockets that took off, your rocket must have its own ways of taking-off. Success is a product of relevant information built by the one who achieved it. Among this information is what one entirely discovers.
  5. That being said. Circumstances differ. The means you have at start is different to theirs and, therefore, the effort you need to put, connections you must build, the type of foundation to be laid and everything else to be put in place differs.
  6. A perfect achievement is a product of paths discovered and straightened up. All successful people discovered their paths but its not all who straightened them up. What is that you should be? You have the power to define that for yourself.
  7. Success is a product of working on the vacuum inside to fill it. If its already filled before you try to fill it you have to empty it and fill it with the right stuff. This is important. Yet from role models we don’t get to see the type of vacuums they filled inside, we only see the landscapes.

If you are to be successful, just know that there is a time to submit and a time to rise to prowess, a time to be the needy and neglected a time to stand up high sufficed. Resist submission when it is the time not to resist it, you’re only failing yourself. Think of yourself as a king when you should be a servant for that story you’re trying to write, you’re only buying yourself more time in servitude.

You can be your own role model. This is the secret in most of the ultra-success stories. A role model to self seeks to keep modifying the self to better standards that can keep up and conquer the needs of the day or fail as required by the situation and learn first-personly afterwards. A role model to self is a deeper understanding of the inner-self and the flaws in there.

A role model to self can become what the self really love to become not what others have. Yourself is the best role model you can have in life. It doesn’t take a lot to see that there are corners of you that need more workings as you tackle the journey.

After all, life must have parts of it sour as a journey. The ultra-successful people who endured pain for years don’t waste time explaining their pain as they even know that we are not willing to listen when they tell the build-up part. So don’t waste your time trying to listen to whatever they say. It is not the true story, the true story is one you are not willing to hear. They suffered a lot. You should, too. Two scientists who discovered graphene in the mid-2000s are simply the winners of the Nobel prices but their story is more than that. They worked hard. They starved. They suffered for it.

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